6 Helpful Tips on Finding Positivity After Getting Divorced

By Dominica


Last Updated: February 14, 2022

If you find yourself struggling after a divorce, you may have a tough time thinking you’ll ever feel happy again.

You may be battling depression, anxiety, fear, disappointment, and more. Feeling these emotions causes some people to get out of the social scene and isolate.

It’s easy to give up on new dreams and possibilities when life doesn’t go as planned. However, such mindsets don’t allow you to embrace opportunity for continued growth and positivity.

It may feel as if your happy days are over after a divorce. However, if you can become open to possibility, in time, life can open up and make a way for you to bloom once again, feeling hopeful and happier. 

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6 Tips to Help You Become More Positive After a Divorce or Separation

1. Pay Attention To Your Thoughts

Thoughts are powerful. 

If you want to experience some happy emotions, you’ve got to learn how to tap into the power of positive thinking. Regardless of a divorce or how your past has been, you can re-train your brain to think positively.

Think of it this way. It’s like you have an old CD playing in your brain and it is full of negative thoughts that keep you in a cycle of sadness, anxiety, fear, and more. 

You can take that CD out and smash it into a thousand pieces. Then, give yourself permission to put a new CD in that is full of positivity and hope for a better life.

2. Focus On Your Positive Desires

What do you want in life? More happiness? Peace?

Do you have concrete goals or are you just caught up in the routine of your everyday life? 

According to the law of attraction, you get what you put your focus on, so get busy putting your attention on the things you want.

For example, if you’re struggling with depression, write down some things that you enjoy doing. Think about the things that make you feel happy and commit to doing them as often as you can. 

If your desire is to experience more happiness, spend more time doing things you enjoy. For example, if you love to play with your pets, spend as much time playing with them as you can.

If hiking in nature excites you, get out there regularly.

If socializing with family brings you joy, be sure you have regular get-togethers.

As you put more time into feeling those good feelings, more good feelings will come.  You attract what you focus on, so focus on the good things!

3. Believe You Can Have What You Want

To get what you want, believe that you can and actually do have it. You ask for it, believe that you have it, and THEN it will come. See, having faith, or believing you have something before you really do, gets momentum going. It sets an intention.

It gets the universe swirling and working its magic, so to speak. So, when you ask for something, like more happiness, know that more and more will come.

Some people call this faking it till you make it. Even though you’re feeling sad now, pulling up happy emotions now – especially by doing something you love to do – will essentially help you ditch that sadness sooner, rather than later.

4. Get Yourself Stirred Up

Keep yourself stirred up with things that are positive and inspirational. Read books, go to seminars, listen to audios, watch YouTube videos, visualize yourself with a great life, get a Life Coach and take life to a new level. Divorce does not mean your life is over.

5. Offer Gratitude

Begin to get up each morning and say, “Thank you!” even if you’re struggling emotionally. Say thank you for all of the good things in your life and all of the good things coming your way.

It may feel like you don’t have much to be grateful for, but if you really think about it, there are many blessings in your life. Something as simple as being able to breathe and walk around are blessings. When you offer gratitude, you send out positive vibes and guess what happens? More good things come your way.

If you need a reminder, get yourself a daily gratitude journal and take time to write often.

6. Be Patient

Not everything comes in your timing, so learn to be patient. Patience is a choice. It’s not always easy to accept that we’re powerless over some situations, but it is possible. If you struggle with being patient, saying the Serenity Prayer may help.

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."

Learn to persevere, even if you’ve been waiting for what seems forever. 


Boosting Positivity After Divorce is Possible

Life after divorce can be challenging, but the challenge doesn’t have to last forever.

As you navigate grieving the loss of the relationship, keep in mind that there are some things you can do to increase positivity along your journey. 

Take these tips into consideration.

  • Continue to learn how you can bring more positivity and happiness into your life.
  • Look for the good things you already have in your life and embrace an optimistic mindset. 

Even after divorce, you can heal, learn valuable lessons, and go on to enjoy a good life.

Should you find yourself struggling more than you believe you can handle, you can always reach out to a professional therapist for help. Being able to share your grief and emotions with someone who can hold a safe space for you can be quite therapeutic.

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