Throughout life, it’s likely we will face some difficult circumstances and people.
Life will not always go as planned and people will not always act like we want them to. That’s just the way it goes. I think that as we grow personally, it is important to learn how to speak up for ourselves and hold our ground when boundaries are crossed, or we are facing fear.
I believe people ought to feel empowered and confident. There will most likely be someone in your life periodically telling you what you can and cannot do.
If this rubs you the wrong way, you ought to know how to stand up for yourself and say, “Whoa Nellie. Back the control truck up. This is not ok with me.”
Hiding your feelings may be tempting, but in the long run, it’s not the best way to handle your emotions.
If you keep everything bottled up inside, eventually your feelings may explode and that’s not usually a pleasant experience for you or others. Trust me. I’ve stuffed my emotional balloon full, full, full before, and guess what….
It eventually popped - and there was my emotional goop splattered all over everything.
It wasn’t pretty.
If you are feeling something or need something, I give you permission to speak it in a loving and honest way.
Why is that we think we have to keep things bottled up?
We have every right to share what we are thinking or feeling.
Optimism is golden. The truth is that you’re likely to be miserable if you are constantly thinking negative thoughts.
In order to be happy, you must learn to have a positive perspective.
I know that you know this, but do you wonder how?
It’s alright to have a few moments where you feel those emotions and get them out. It’s alright to cry. You have permission to punch the pillow. Rant and rave out in nature for a while. Scream into the wind.
Then, when you’ve released the emotions, take a deep breath and resolve to take a new perspective. A positive one.
Say, “Yeah, this stinks, but I’m going to get through it. I’m going to come out a stronger person. I’m going to do something different and tell a new story.”
Do you want happiness and peace? Stand up, speak up, and go after what you want.
You will face times in your life where you may be bullied, put down physically or emotionally, or made to feel that you are worthless.
People who are hut themselves will hurt others, much of the time without really trying to. Do not stand for emotional, verbal, or physical abuse. This happens all the time and what people are not realizing is that it’s unacceptable. It’s not ok.
I don’t care what you’ve done or haven’t done.
You are fully allowed to speak your feelings to others and if you’ve been mistreated, call it for what it is in a mature way.
Everyone has a voice. Learn to use yours to let others know how you’re feeling and share your thoughts openly and honestly. If you want or need something, do not feel ashamed or fearful in asking for it. If someone is disrespectful to you, call them out on it in an honorable way.
Say, “Hey, I’m not sure why you’re talking to me like that. I find it disrespectful, and I don’t appreciate it and won’t tolerate it.”
It really can be that simple. If you are confronted with someone who won’t listen to you or gets angry because you spoke up, it may be a great opportunity to cut ties. You can speak your mind lovingly and respectfully, without fear, and give others an opportunity to heal a wound or defect that they are obviously swimming in.
Know your value. Stand up, speak up, and watch how your life changes for the better.
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