During the early, sharing everything stages of relationships, most of us tell the potential partner what our love language is.
This is because we want them to be aware of how we want to be loved. This way, it becomes easier for them to show us love.
Often, we know exactly what we want from our partners, and we have a list of things that we will not settle for.
However, most of us don’t know how to show ourselves love in our love language.
But, is it fair for us to expect someone to love us in a way that we can’t or don’t know how to love ourselves?
Does that mean if we're not in a relationship we do not deserve to be loved?
I believe that the way we show ourselves sets a prototype for others to know how to love us.
When we try to understand love languages, it is usually in relation to another person. We seek to understand how we can best love our partners but ignore how we can love ourselves.
If this is your love language, you know you love cuddles. When your partner holds your hand or gives you a hug, you get some butterflies in your stomach.
Since you enjoy physical expression, you can also show yourself the affection you deserve by:
It is nice to hear kind and encouraging words from someone.
But do you know what's better? Hearing those words from someone who will always be there for you, that is you!
You don't have to walk around talking to yourself, but when at home, you are welcome to verbally give yourself those words of affirmation out loud.
Other ways of showing yourself love in this love language include:
Since you appreciate being taken care of, you appreciate all the little things that make your life move smoother. You love the convenience that comes along with having a thoughtful partner.
You can direct acts of service to yourself in these ways:
Receiving gifts from other people is nice, but you know exactly what you want and the ‘perfect’ gift you deserve.
Considering how awesome and hardworking you are, I am sure we both agree that you deserve some nice gifts.
Remember, the thought behind the gift is the important aspect and not the price tag. You can consider:
These people enjoy having someone fully present.
If you value undistracted time with your partner, you will most likely also appreciate these acts which allow you to give yourself the full attention you deserve.
You can not pour from an empty cup. Before you attempt to love the next person, you need to master the art of loving yourself.
This can be awkward and difficult at first because we live in a society that puts so much emphasis on loving others more than loving ourselves. But, the more you try it, the better you become at it!
You don’t need to ask for permission; you can literally do anything that makes you happy (as long as it does not infringe on the next person).
The world can make you feel neglected and invisible, but you have you to love yourself.
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I love your website, this was truly one of the best articles ever. Thank you so much, I am saving these words as a reminder of these truths.
Wonderful Opal! Thank you for the support, we are so happy this resonated with you. Take care 🙂
Thank you for posting this article! I am in a difficult situation in my life and am trying to love myself more-this article is a reminder on how to do that.
We are wishing you lots of luck with whatever you are going through Moni. Hopefully this helps you in some way - you will get through this! 🙂
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Great to hear Ahuva, you should absolutely be kinder to your mind and yourself!! Love to hear it - take care! 🙂
Everyone of the DIY list to love and care of oneself is do-able. Thanks.
Great to hear! Hopefully it helps Leela 🙂
Thanks for the wonderful reminders. They represent the reality ewhich people many times forget. Thanks again.
Thank you for the feedback Jaime, so happy you enjoyed 🙂
Thank you 😊 for this reminder to practice self love ❤️ I am still learning how. I look forward to the Daily Motivation every day! It helps me to stay positive 😌.
It's easy to forget to love ourselves, but man, does it help sometimes. So many of us wait to receive love from other people, but we are capable of doing it too! It feels weird at first, but it really makes a difference. Keep at it Ellen, you are so worth it 🙂
Loving yourself is amazing and has great value. True self-love brings freedom and peace.
Thanks for sharing this wonderful article.
Absolutely, thank you Ligy! 🙂