During the early, sharing everything stages, most of us tell the potential partner what our love language is. This is because we want them to be aware of how we want to be loved. This way, it becomes easier for them to show us love.
Often, we know exactly what we want from our partners, and we have a list of things that we will not settle for.
However, most of us don’t know how to show ourselves love in our love language.
But, is it fair for us to expect someone to love us in a way that we can’t or don’t know how to love ourselves?
Does that mean if we are not in a relationship we do not deserve to be loved?
I believe that the way we show ourselves sets a prototype for others to know how to love us.
When we try to understand love languages, it is usually in relation to another person. We seek to understand how we can best love our partners but ignore how we can love ourselves.
If this is your love language, you know you love cuddles. When your partner holds your hand or gives you a hug, you get some butterflies in your stomach.
Since you enjoy physical stimulation, you can also show yourself the affection you deserve by:
It is nice to hear kind and encouraging words from someone.
But do you know what is better? Hearing those words from someone who will always be there for you, that is You!
Ideally, don’t walk around talking to yourself (the world is pretty judgmental), but when at home, you are welcome to verbally give yourself those words of affirmation out loud.
Other ‘socially acceptable’ ways of showing yourself love in this love language include:
Since you appreciate being taken care of, you appreciate all the little things that make your life move smoother. You love the convenience that comes along with having a thoughtful partner.
You can direct acts of service to yourself through these ways:
Receiving gifts from other people is nice, but you know exactly what you want and the ‘perfect’ gift you deserve.
Considering how awesome and hardworking you are, I am sure we both agree that you deserve some nice gifts.
Remember, the thought behind the gift is the important aspect and not the price tag. You can consider:
These people enjoy having someone fully present.
If you value undistracted time with your partner, you will most likely also appreciate these acts which allow you to give yourself the full attention you deserve.
You can not pour from an empty cup. Before you attempt to love the next person, you need to master the art of loving yourself.
This can be awkward and difficult at first because we live in a society that puts so much emphasis on loving others more than loving ourselves. But, the more you try it, the better you become at it!
You don’t need to ask for permission; you can literally do anything that makes you happy (as long as it does not infringe on the next person).
The world can make you feel neglected and invisible, but you have you to love yourself.
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