Feeling appreciated and loved is essential for a healthy relationship.
However, it’s all about showing your partner love and appreciation in the way they need. And this is exactly where the 5 love languages come into play.
Most of us want our loved ones to know we care. Yet, love often gets lost in translation. You might show your partner time and time again how much your care, but they aren’t exactly picking up what you’re putting down. The fix? You need to speak to their love language!
In this article, we’re going to examine the 5 love languages, and even help you find your love language. How can you have a healthier and happier relationship? Let’s get you and your partner speaking each others’ language!
“We tend to speak our own love language, to express love to others in a language that would make us feel loved. But if it is not his/her primary love language, it will not mean to them what it would mean to us.”
Speaking your partner’s love language can help you give each other what you need, as well as help each other deepen the bond you already clearly have. Yet, to do so, you need to know what each others’ love languages are! So, without further delay, here are the five love languages.
The words of affirmation love language is showing love through the verbal spoken word, such as praising your partner or telling them how much you love and adore them.
In fact, this is one of the most common love languages. While verbal praises or compliments are common ways to express this love language, they aren’t the only ones. A small and unexpected love note detailing your feelings also goes a long way.
Individuals whose love language is words of affirmation tend to tune into the sensitivities of others and know exactly what to say to help another person feel better. As such, they are significantly attuned to others, including their partner, doing the same for them.
Individuals who recognize quality time as one of their primary love languages feel love and appreciation when their partner spends quality time with them, meaning they have your undivided attention. This means eye contact and active listening!
If this sounds like you or your partner, try to be more present with one another. This might mean turning off the T.V. or putting your phones away so that you can truly connect with one another through meaningful conversations.
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This one almost needs no explanation. Individuals whose love language is physical touch feel most loved and appreciated through physical signs of affection, such as hugging, kissing, cuddling, holding hands, massages, and sex.
With acts of service, an individual feels love and affection when the other person does something nice for them or goes out of their way for them.
Some examples include doing the dishes or making dinner, especially when they’ve known you’ve had a rough day at work, putting gas in the car, getting that errand done for them, or vacuuming.
It’s that whole concept that your actions speak louder than your words. You are literally showing the other person how much you care by doing things for them.
Gifts have always symbolized love and affection. And it’s not just about the item itself. It’s also about the care, thought, and effort put into it.
It shows you’ve been thinking about them, even when they aren’t physically around. The main thing here is to ensure you get a gift that is meaningful to the other person, and not just to you.
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By now, maybe you’re thinking, “I am still really unsure what my love language is.” The truth is that most people are a combination of all of the above. However, there’s usually one or two that are significantly stronger than the others.
Some questions you might want to consider to determine which ones matter more for you include do you feel more loved and appreciated when:
Alternatively, there are also 5 love languages quizzes online that can help you nail down which love language is most important to you or your partner.
If you’re in a relationship, you should both take the time to do the quiz, then take some time to review each others’ results and how you could better give each other what you need.
The way we express and receive love can, inevitably, differ from others, even those that we are madly in love with.
Yet, this doesn’t necessarily mean you’re incompatible. It usually means you need to understand each other more, and the love languages can help you do just that.
The 5 love languages foster empathy, selflessness, intimacy, and growth in a relationship. It allows each individual to feel appreciated for who they are at that given moment. After all, most of us want to find belonging and feel accepted.
Additionally, the love languages can help you communicate your love better. As you might already know, communication is key in any relationship. The 5 love languages can open the doors for healthy communication, helping you understand each other better and connect even more deeply.
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