Want To Increase Your Influence On Others? 9 Ways to Assert Yourself

By Dominica


Last Updated: October 28, 2021

Sometimes in life, it comes in handy to be able to sway others to your perspective or view.

Whether it’s trying to make a sale at work, parent children, or help sway someone from doing something they may regret, influencing others is a skill that can benefit you. 

  • On a scale of 1 to 10, how influential do you think you are over others? 
  • Do you have the ability to cause others to be more agreeable with you? 
  • Can you sway them to do what you want them to do?
  • Are you able to steer the conversation your way? 

Whether you are a leader or not, the art of influencing others is a valuable skill that you can utilize in various aspects of your life. In fact, the ability to influence others is not as challenging as you may think.

I’m not talking full-on mind control here. I simply mean that you can learn to have more influence than you may think.

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Powerful People Have Influence

Think about those who hold powerful positions in a company. Those in the upper positions have the most influence. The higher your position, more than likely, the more power you hold. 

Bet and believe most influential men and women did not get in their position by chance. Sure, they may have worked hard and put the time in, but they may also have learned valuable influence or persuasion skills.

If you want to learn how you can have the most influence on others, learning a bit about mental or mind control is will suit you well. 

“Mind control” is simply influencing another person’s mind to sway the way you want it to sway.

Whether you are a sales person desiring to increase your sales quota, a coach seeking to influence your team, or you’re in leadership at a company, acquiring the ability to influence others in a positive way is a noteworthy goal. 

Here are some basics tips and tricks for using mind control to influence others:

1. Be assertive.

If you are passive, your chances of influencing others decrease.

To be assertive means you’re confident and can get your ideas or thoughts across boldly. There are many assertiveness books and classes available to help you boost your confidence.

2. Be logical and rational.

If you want to convince others, you must put your idea out there in a logical and rational form.

Some will tell you to just appeal to other people’s emotions, and that may help to a degree. However, logic can help influence people just as well.

3. Boost your negotiation skills.

If you want to get your desires across to others, learn how to negotiate well.

As you negotiate, you can do your best to let others know that you have their best interest in mind. A great negotiator will be able to show others the benefits of whatever it is they’re trying to push, and at the same time, get whatever it is they desire. It’s a win-win situation for both.  

4. Learn how to understand people.

Can you read people? Do you understand where they are coming from? As an influencer, you should do your best to be able to understand people.

Learn how to see their strengths and weaknesses. Become curious about them and gather information. People tend to love to talk about themselves, so ask lots of questions.  

5. Understand people as creatures of emotion.

It was Dale Carnegie that let us know that people tend to be more emotional and less logical.

If you can become somewhat emotionally engaged with them, you will have more influential power. Even something as simple as, “You’re doing such a fantastic job! I’m so proud of you!” reaches the emotional level and that person will remember you.

6. Use reciprocity.

If you do someone a favor, they are more likely to reciprocate. To increase your influence on others, sometimes you have to sow some seeds into their lives in order to make that special kind of connection.

7. Read body language.

Do you know you can learn a great deal about someone within minutes of meeting them just by observing their body language? You can tell if they are secure, open, trusting, closed off, and more.

8. Be a person that walks with integrity. 

Don’t just try to influence people for your personal gain. Be the kind of person that really means what they say and look for the best in others. Let others know that you truly do care about them and that you’re trustworthy. And, follow suit!

9. Be nice.

If you want to have a better influence on others in a positive way, simply be a nice person. You do not have to resort to cruel mental techniques in order to persuade people. If you walk with integrity and exemplify kindness, you are more apt to win people over in all sorts of ways.


You Can Hold More Influence Over People

When discussing how to have influence over others, you might think about those in history who have used mind control techniques like hypnosis and brainwashing to influence masses of people. Keep in mind that such techniques used for “darkness” are not reputable or encouraged. 

There are reputable ways you can have more influence over others and not bring harm upon them. Whether you’re a leader, teacher, boss, parent, or simply someone who enjoys helping people see things from a different perspective, learning the skills to influence others is certainly possible with time and effort.

As you continue on your journey to increase your influence on others, keep these suggestions in mind and practice them regularly. 

I will close with a quote by Albert Schweitzer, who reminds us to keep our intentions pure:

Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.

Want to learn more? Check out this popular article from the Center for Creative Leadership: Master the 3 Ways To Influence People

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