Having toxic people around you (even if it’s just one person) can feel like re-experiencing your worst day over and over again. It’s like getting stuck in a horrible Déjà vu – with no obvious way to escape.
And, in case you don’t know what being around a toxic person feels like, it is finding yourself in a situation where you are constantly being
But that’s not all. Toxic people don’t just poison your life, they also make it difficult to realize this. They make it look like there was a remedy to the problems and misunderstandings – as though doing more would change anything.
They make you feel like you need to spend more time with them, give them more money, lavish them with praises, and basically attend to all their whims. But what do you get in return? The opposite. You keep getting blamed for all the problems in the relationship (including things that are obviously out of your control, or that are clearly their fault).
The problem is not that toxic people are “evil” but that they do not act logically. Their actions, words, and entire world is skewed in such a way that everything they do would have some subtle way of making you feel inadequate or worse…if not in the present, in the near future.
They often keep the drama away till they get you to commit – i.e. till you get physically, mentally, financially, or emotionally invested in them. It even gets worse when you share a child with them.
For example, an unsuspecting individual might meet a seemingly sweet and caring person, who would make them feel special and understood, only to begin dating (or get married) to realize just how self-centered and irresponsible they can be.
Surprisingly, toxic people make you feel as though you pushed yourself on them, and would trap you in conundrums which would make you feel like a horrible person if you ever wanted to leave.
This could be them filing cases against you in court (so that you can’t leave with the children) or telling you that no one would love you (because you’re a horrible person). Their aim is to dis-empower their prey, to make them feel like there was some ideal that they are not living up to, whilst in reality, it is all their sick and twisted desires.
The truth is that toxic people are everywhere – on the streets, at work, and even in the family. And, it is near impossible not to run into one or two in the course of our lives.
And, I must admit, it is not always easy to spot them, and it is even harder to escape their influence. But you must keep your eyes peeled and your boundaries firm.
It might hurt in the short term to actively block out such people from your life (especially when they are family) but you must realize that in the long term it would benefit your mental health and quality of life in general.
Benefits of Ending a Toxic Relationship
Once you spot a toxic person in your life, cut them off, limit your interaction with them, or set strong boundaries in your relationships. When do you do this, you would realize that:
Just like a farmer weeds the farmland before planting crops, sometimes before good things can come to us, we must first uproot the bad. If you ever find yourself near a toxic person, the only mantra on your mind should be either “escape” or “enough”.
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