It’s no fun to go around day to day feeling about a hundred thoughts swirling in your mind at the same time. Confusion, frustration, anger, negativity, fear, etc. can certainly put a damper on your mood. Over time, all that dense energy may even affect your health.
Does your mind tend to be busier than you want? Do you wish you could fall asleep fast at night, but it takes you a while because your mind is racing? You can’t calm your nervous system?
Take heart, dear one, there are things you can learn to calm your mind down and enjoy some wonderful peace and quiet.
Mindful living is a good start.
Sometimes when you’re just about ready to experience a breakthrough or a new season of your life, confusion and chaos will show up.
You ever experience that?
It’s like all mental heck breaks loose and you think you’re going to lose it. You’re thinking, “What did I do to deserve this?”
But then, as suddenly as the chaos started, it ends. You’ve broken through and you get to enjoy clarity and peace. Look back on your life and think about how you made it through so many things!
To be mindful means to live in the present moment. It means to be aware of the now, rather than thinking about the past or future.
You may be in a season of inner or outer chaos now. The mental chatter may be incessant, but don’t lose hope. In fact, believe that as you keep your faith (whatever that means for you), there are some important things happening deep within you.
Do your best to focus on your breath moment by moment. Whatever you’re doing, do it mindfully, with your attention right there on your tasks. Your choice to live mindfully as an optimist will pay off.
You might be tempted to get frustrated or depressed. You might want to say, “This is ridiculous and taking forever!”
Resist the urge to swim in the negativity sea.
Rather, take some time to get quiet with yourself. Take a few slow, deep breaths and relax. Continue to focus on your breath – the inhale and exhale. Mentally, recite things like, “I am peace” or “All is well”.
Know that clarity and a breakthrough will come in due time. Trust the process.
When negative emotions arise, such as sadness, frustration, grief, or fear, take a little time to embrace the feeling. There is a reason that a negative emotion has risen. It may have an important message for you.
It’s easy to feel the intense emotion and get right into fear. If that’s what you’re used to, then it might take some time to break this habit.
There’s a phrase that’s common in therapy circles. “You have to face it and feel it to heal it”.
Do you have racing thoughts in your mind? Are most of them negative?
Sit quietly and let them pop up. Begin to observe them. Feel them for a few moments. Have a conversation with them internally.
“Hey fear. What is it? What message are you trying to get to me? Oh, you need me to create a safe inner space? Take some time every day to shut the world out and go within? Ok, fear. That’s what I’m going to do.”
“Hey confusion. I see you. I hear you. You’re worried I won’t make the right decision. I get it. But I want you to know that I am doing all I know to do to make the right decision for me. I’m showing up as a responsible adult, and I’m taking some silent time to gain some clarity. You can step down confusion. I’ve got this.”
You get the idea.
Practice mindful living. Acknowledge and embrace the emotions momentarily and then let it go. Let them float away like the stream. Trust that whatever decisions you make will be the right ones for you at this time in your life.
Practicing mindfulness and meditation are great ways to help calm the mind. However, if you’ve been there and tried them to no avail, consider reaching out for professional help. You don’t have to stay stuck with racing thoughts dominating your mind.
There are professionals who are qualified to help you gain some clarity of mind and freedom from negative emotions. Consult with a therapist, Life Coach, mentor, etc. for help. Give yourself permission to receive assistance.
It takes time to learn how to calm the mind and experience mindful living. There are neural pathways in your brain that are fairly set in their ways. However, you can learn to rewire them with some time and effort.
You might not experience complete peace of mind overnight, but that’s alright. Learn to be patient and trust the process and your path in life. Do what you can and let the rest come incrementally. Enjoy each day living mindfully – in the moment.
Trust that things are working out for you. That you’re becoming more peaceful. That as you commit to living mindfully, you will be able to experience peace, harmony, and serenity.