Be Unapologetic About Your Growth: Here's Why it's SO Important

Everything we do produces results that could sometimes end up beyond our expectations.

It’s like how working out to lose weight increases your speed and agility, or how steadily munching on junk food (because you do not have time to cook) makes you feel lethargic and causes weight gain.

Here is the thing, actions cause reactions, and those actions and reactions snowball – leading to (sometimes) unanticipated huge results.

If your actions are positive, you're building a great big snowball of positivity that will pick up as it grows. But if they're negative actions, that's one nasty snowball to tackle as it collects more negativity along its path.

Any change eventually leads to an outcome, and whatever part of the pendulum you swing, you end up standing out.    

But what happens when you're growing in a positive way, and by standing out for it, you attract the attention of people who are not doing anything? Or those who are still struggling with a snowball of negativity?

Growing Unapologetically

Growth, by nature involves standing out.

This means that a common result when you start growing is that you begin to make some people around you who are not growing to feel smaller.

Your growth may cause them to feel threatened and intimidated. You are changing so many things for the positive that you make them look bad judging from their standpoint. 

It’s like when you were a kid and just got this high score in a video game, only for the new kid in the neighborhood to 3X that score.

Now, this is not what you wanted. You just wanted to live your best life.

You only wanted to quit the bad habits, get fit, make more money, find love, etc. And yes, you’ve begun taking steps and getting results!              

Don't listen to those who won't support your growth journey.

But unfortunately for some the people around you who are still stuck in their bad habits, you are a reflection of all they are not.

And this can intimidate, infuriate, and trigger them. 

It can bring about derogatory statements about you and your growth. Maybe they:

• call you a showoff
• attribute your success to luck
• or think of other ways to put you down

They try to bring you down and downplay your success which you’ve worked so hard for, and sometimes you feel suffocated and alone. It almost feels like growth is a curse.

But you need to snap out of this way of thinking!!

You need to realize that it is not your fault that they don’t have what you have, and you should not be bothered about their opinion either.          

This is because, the moment you start listening to the negative feedback, you start withering – your growth starts to reverse.

And here's the reality: even if you swing to the negative side, those same people will still call you names - lazy, a quitter, miserable, and more.    

Whatever side of the pendulum of life you swing to, those who refuse to grow will always find fault. They will always want to point fingers, accuse, and attack. This is why you need to be unapologetic about your growth.            

Being Unapologetic About Your Growth

This is a good thing! By becoming unapologetic about your growth you:

• become more daring
• become harder for negative people to bring down
• start living by your rules
• begin to spot the negative and toxic people in your life
• notice and attract positive people into your life
• become happier
• become more focused on the important things
• improve your chances of succeeding beyond your wildest imaginations, and
• become all you’ve ever dreamed of    

By being unapologetic about your growth, you realize that none of their judgments and attacks were really about you. It was about them all along. It was them projecting their negativity, pain, and inadequacies onto you. And this realization is SO liberating.                 

Being unapologetic about your growth isn’t just something to consider, it is the only way to bring into your life all the good things you’ve dreamt about. That alone is sufficient reason to keep pushing, conquering, and growing.      

Your Positive Growth Snowball

Continuing in your growth journey can:

• force you out of your comfort zone
• allow you to cultivate genuine self-love     
• give you a sense of purpose
• improve your mental health   
• encourage you to keep learning      
• help you work on your weaknesses
• compel you to develop your strengths and know yourself better      
• boost your confidence
• lead to being more independent    
• improve your self-esteem and self-awareness
• and exponentially increase your growth and have more faith in your abilities    

True, you might lose a few friends, face resistance, garner enemies, and become disillusioned so many times you think you’ve developed trust issues.

But that is all okay. It is all part of the process.              

In the end, you'll realize that by being unapologetic about your growth, you multiply your results. And that is something worth striving for.    

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Be Unapologetic About Your Growth: You Don't Need to Impress Anyone But Yourself!

So many people who have found success attract haters. But remember this: it is impossible to please everyone, so don’t even try. Remain unapologetic about your growth and don’t let the haters bring you down.

Remember that not everyone will appreciate that you’ve evolved, since they have a certain version of you stuck in their head.

That’s their problem, not yours.

Don’t hesitate to reach for the stars and evolve as you please!

Editor's note: This article was originally published Jun 3, 2021 and has been updated to improve reader experience.

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