Years ago, I was in a relationship where I tended to take things personally, many of which had absolutely nothing to do with me. I didn't realize it at the time, but I was dealing with a lot of insecurity and emotional mayhem. I made plenty of things about me, and reacted from a space […]

The phrase, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, which is now cliché, was a saying used by German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche, “He divines remedies for injuries; he knows how to turn serious accidents to his own advantage; that which does not kill him makes him stronger.”- Friedrich Nietzsche autobiography, Ecce Homo Ever since then, […]

Emotional triggers used to be a real pain in my relationships. Whenever my partner said or did something that struck a nerve, I'd feel this surge of anger, like a volcano about to erupt. But instead of letting it out, I'd stuff it down, lock it away in an emotional dungeon, and just shut down. […]

You’re having a decent day. Maybe even a good one. Then out of nowhere - bam - something someone says hits a nerve. Your heart races. Your mood shifts. You feel thrown off, flooded with emotion, and wondering, Why is this bothering me so much? Cue the inner critic: I thought I was over this. […]

Have you ever made a mountain out of a molehill? Of course you have - and you’re not alone. This is generally referred to as overgeneralization, a cognitive distortion that occurs when we make sweeping generalizations based on limited or isolated experiences. It involves taking one instance or a few instances and applying it to […]