Yes, it is true, your weight does not determine your worth.
Unless your weight is now a health challenge – the number on the scale doesn’t have to mean much.
It doesn’t determine how valuable or lovable you are.
There have been numerous great women and men in history (and some in the present, with much more to come in the future) who weigh more or less than their peers. How you see yourself is what matters most.
There are a lot of qualities we don't consider that contribute to making a person lovely to people they meet, and very important in the society they find themselves in. Some of those qualities include:
When you look at that list, you find things that are truly rare, beautiful, and incorruptible. Our physical appearance is only but a small, often misleading, aspect of who we are – it is a wrapper for the candy, and not the candy itself.
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On the other hand, if you’re uncomfortable with your shape or size, and you intend to go up or down the scale, your love for yourself should still come first.
Yet, trying to love yourself while attempting to change your weight seems a bit counterintuitive.
Intuitively, you must think that the logical conclusion of wanting to, for example, lose weight is that you hate your body. But this is a misconception.
Think about it, do you hate yourself when your nails overgrow, or your hair gets too long?
True, you may not want it that way, but it does not mean you hate your nails or hair. So also your body is yours to love, and yours to treat as you please.
Starting a weight loss program is a sign of self-love, and continuing in it is a form of self-care. And like all self-care practices, weight loss takes time and commitment.
So, it is crucial that you begin this journey from a place of love and acceptance because that is what can pull you through the thick and thin.
Embarking on a weight loss program (with self-love being your key motivator) would help you set realistic goals, and stay resilient in the face of setbacks and disappointment.
It turns the challenges into an adventure, and each stumbling block becomes a stepping stone – as you embrace the totality of the experience, pushing through sweat, fatigue, and nausea.
In this journey, your mindset can become your greatest foe or ally. Below is a list of approaches that can turn it into an asset for you!
When you look at a beautiful landscape on your phone's screen, it is indeed a beautiful spectacle.
But when you look closer (not digitally zooming in, but physically moving your head/eyes closer to the screen) you would discover that it is made up of thousands of tiny boxes (known as pixels), each with a different color.
This is the same with your life, and all the goals you plan to achieve within it.
Looking at the mirror each day hoping to have lost half your weight is a surefire way to make you want to quit before you even begin. You must begin each day on a sort of blank slate.
You must do your best to make sure each day was properly utilized – that you did your best, that the pixel shone its color. And yes, some days are bad; but remember that it is not all the pixels in an image that are brightly colored.
You don’t have to condemn yourself and give up because you didn’t see results, or didn’t appear to lose any obvious weight on day one. You have to believe and trust the process. Eliminate the negative self-talk, and do your best each day.
I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free. - Michelangelo
Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.
Of course, remember that you are more than a number on the scale, and it is entirely your choice to weigh whatever you please. All things being equal, loving yourself is one of the most important duties you owe yourself and the world at large during these trying times. So, keep loving yourself.
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