14 Effective Ways to Keep Your Partner Interested

Relationships are an interesting dynamic. Being committed to one person can be both a pro and con, depending on how you look at it.

Being with one person means you have sufficient time to properly get to know each other and make each other happy. However, it can also mean that you have to do the same thing over and over with the same person so it can become monotonous and boring.

However, the latter should never be the case when both people love each other. 

There are many ways to keep your partner interested, here are a few suggestions:

14 Ways to Effectively Keep Your Partner Interested

Communication

Keep the lines of communication open and actively listen to your partner.

Ask them about their day, their interests, how they're feeling etc. Make it a point to occasionally check in with them. Schedule time to have proper, deep and sometimes uncomfortable conversations. 

Quality time

Spend quality time with your partner doing things you both enjoy, such as going out for dinner, watching a movie, or taking a walk together.

Spend some time alone

Spending some time alone separately is also essential for relationships to thrive. Being alone allows you to get to know yourself more. Once you know exactly the kind of person you are and the things that make you happy, it becomes easier for you to communicate those to your partner. 

Surprise them

Surprise your partner with little gestures, such as leaving a sweet note, buying them their favorite snack, or planning a surprise date. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. Anything that shows that you were thinking of them is good enough. 

Show appreciation

Let your partner know how much you appreciate them and their efforts. It is easy to take your partner for granted, especially when they do something very often. Compliment them on their achievements and tell them how much you love and care for them.

Be affectionate

Get to know your partner’s love language and love them in that way.

Even after being married for decades, never get tired of loving your partner affectionately. 

Show interest in their passions

Show interest in your partner's passions and hobbies.

If you can join them to enjoy the hobby with them, that would be amazing. Where appropriate, ask them about their hobby and watch the spark in their eyes as they talk about the things they enjoy. 

Keep things fresh

Don't fall into a routine or get too comfortable. Be open to trying new things. 

Practice thoughtful gifting

When you’re talking or just interacting, pay attention to the things your partner shows interest in.

You will be amazed with the subtle gift ideas they give you. Next time you walk past a store that has a thing they like, get that for them. This will remind them that you listen to them when they talk and you think of them when you’re going about your day. 

Recreate your first date

Where possible, go back in time and redo your first date. Laugh at the awkward things you did then and allow yourselves to fall in love again. 

Get away together

Consider short getaways to different places you’ve never been before. A new environment helps you get a new perspective. 

Compliment them

When they dress up or get a new haircut, acknowledge their effort and compliment them.

This will remind them that you are paying attention to them and you still find them attractive despite being together for a while. 

Laugh together

Life is stressful, but when you’re with your partner, you should be able to loosen up and laugh a little. Laugh at the random dad jokes you both come up with or share.

When you’re scrolling through social media and you come across something that makes your tummy hurt from laughing, maybe send it to them or bookmark it so the two of you can laugh about it together. 

Actively listen to each other

When your partner is vulnerable enough to open up about something, actively listen. Do not judge or criticize them.

Put yourself in their position and understand why they feel the way they do. If they communicate that they are not comfortable with something or they would want a certain aspect of the relationship to change, hear them and create an environment that makes them happier and heard. 

It is Possible To Keep Your Partner Interested

Over time, the spark in some relationships might fade. That is absolutely normal, but that doesn’t mean the relationship must now come to an end. You and your partner can practice these and many other things to help rekindle the spark and fall in love again. 

Ideally, you should not wait for the spark to die completely before you engage in things that keep your partner interested. Doing these constantly throughout the relationship will keep both parties happy and the relationship alive. 

Remember, every relationship is different, so what works for one couple may not work for another. The key is to find what makes your partner happy and keep doing it.

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