20 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Be Afraid and Ashamed To Consult A Therapist

By Reniel


Last Updated: June 29, 2021

If you’re reading this, you probably know you need some help. You also know that you have some sort of mental or emotional illness (like depression, anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, etc.) that you have to deal with, or maybe it is some other concerns about the mental space that you’re in right now, and what you are looking for is a reason to go see that therapist. Well, I’m glad to inform you that there are ample reasons why you must stop feeling ashamed. Below are 20 reasons you shouldn’t be ashamed to see a therapist as soon as possible.  


  1. It is true that mental ailments and emotional turbulence have been stigmatized due to misunderstanding and negative associations. For example, a lot of people harbor the notion that people with mental illnesses are damaged, were abused, or are crazy, whilst in reality the reason for a mental illness may be a simple chemical imbalance in the brain or prolonged stress. So that the help you need isn’t made up, but real and immediate, and it is only because of a lack of understanding that they mock the practice of seeing a therapist.
  2. And, just like so many social situations that have been stigmatized or shamed, it is not the people who misunderstand that suffer, but those who are misunderstood. This is the major reason you have to understand that it is less about what they think, and more about what you think (and need).       
  3. A lot of people struggle for years in silence for conditions they would have resolved sooner. Starting therapy is a great way to resolve your struggles.
  4. The truth is that (if you are struggling with any form of mental, emotional, or spiritual challenges) your case is not unique nor different: Statistics have proven that 1 out of every 5 adults in the U.S suffers typical mental illness in a given year (as reported by National Alliance on Mental Illness). These things are common and you should not be ashamed.
  5. And that is why we have professionals who have trained for years, and who are expecting you to step forward with your challenge – pretty much how any other doctor expects you to come for treatment as you fall ill every once in a while.         
  6. Depression, anxiety, stress, or even full-blown obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) are all common and can be elevated or resolved if given the proper care and attention. There is a treatment so keep the faith and hang in there!
  7. And, the scary thing about mental illnesses or emotional turmoil is that they don’t just vanish – like a fever might. This is why it’s important to see a therapist rather than bottling up your emotions and feelings which is toxic to your whole system.
  8. The truth is that without proper care, mental or emotional health problems can lead to vicious circles. For example, a person battling mental health issues can get overwhelmed by a feeling of shame, hopelessness, and haplessness. Other times they can decide to blame other people for the challenge they are facing or even turn against themselves. Whichever way, it is not helpful. Therapy can help resolve these.   
  9. And no, you can’t just take a pill that suppresses them, because that would just be fighting symptoms instead of the root cause. As stated earlier, mental illnesses are sometimes a result of deep-rooted emotions, and pains that have not been dealt with, and until those are resolved, there can’t be much progress.
  10. That’s beside the fact that pills can sometimes come with dire side effects – like increased aggression, depression, rash, nausea, dry mouth, chest pain, headaches, vomiting, and even heightened suicidal thoughts.       
  11. It has also been observed time and again that people who undergo therapy enjoy better and faster improvements, and suffer fewer relapses compared to those who took to medications exclusively.      
  12. Again, unlike the popular dogma, you don’t always have to be emotional and reveal all your embarrassing moments to your therapist, as all you might need is just a person to talk to. That is, you just need a conducive environment to vent – in order to diffuse the clutter in your mind and figure things out for yourself.     
  13. The harsh truth is that your family and friends may not be the best people to discuss such matters with, because they may not understand, and may reveal your sensitive information to other people. Since they won’t understand, and your personal struggles are things that would make you feel uncomfortable if someone else knew about them, the natural response would be to hold back. Hence the suffering lingers.    
  14. This is also one of the advantages of speaking with a therapist. Since therapists are “professionals”, which means that they have worked with several other patients and have successfully helped them, you are sure that your conversation would yield results. And just like with other patients, they are mandated by law to keep your personal life private (not even their BFFs can know about what you tell them) so you’re completely safe to share.      
  15. Therapy provides a safe space for you to share your struggles, fear, and concerns, and get instant professional help and guidance.         
  16. This doesn’t mean that the therapist would tell you what to do with your life, but that they would help you understand what you have to do, after which they would also give you practical steps and guidance to do exactly that.     
  17. In essence, a huge part of therapy is about you and your choices. The therapist only serves more or less as a mirror of your inner world – they help you see what you are struggling with. Hence they have no judgment or condemnation to dish out to you.
  18. On the contrary, a therapist would help you feel understood and validated. They would essentially show you that power is still in your hands. They would also encourage and believe in you to come out of your struggles stronger. They are simply there to listen and to guide.          
  19. Apart from helping you figure out exactly where your struggles emanate from, the therapist would also help you with accountability – by seeing to it that you do what is necessary to get the desired results. They would also serve to motivate and encourage you.       
  20. As a bonus, a therapist can help you even when you aren’t experiencing any particular mental or emotional illness. They may just be the person you need to run to when you are faced with a difficult decision: maybe you found yourself in a messy relationship, or a job you detest; a therapist can help you decide on what would truly bring you maximal happiness in the future.    


“What mental health needs is more sunlight, more candor, and more unashamed conversations” – Glenn Close

The world has seen an upward trend in the number of recorded mental health illnesses. Though the reasons are not quite clear, it is clear that the therapists are not the bad guys, they are the good guys trying to save you from your past and all the troubles that come with your day-to-day life.     

It is also worth mentioning that more and more people are beginning to go for therapy because they too have discovered the tremendous benefits it holds. 

One major factor that deters people is the cost of therapy sessions. The good news is that they are becoming increasingly affordable, and the people who have hired the services of a therapist have seldom complained that it wasn’t worth the money.         

In the coming years, therapy might be the new normal, so much so that people would consult a therapist before choosing a life partner or career, but until then ensure you go for your therapy if you have any burning need.

If you can’t find any therapists nearby, then you can always reach out to an online therapist who would be more than glad to help you out. 


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