5 Wise Things We Wish Someone Would Have Told Us At 18

By Dominica


Last Updated: July 27, 2022

Don’t you wish you could go back to 18 and know what you know today? 

I think we’d be experiencing less stress and living a happier life in some ways. It’s safe to assume we would have done some things differently. I feel like I either didn’t have much wise advice or most of the guidance I did receive never penetrated my brain. 

Maybe I was hardheaded or simply a late bloomer. I’m really not sure. But I do wish someone would have branded some things into my brain so I would experience less obstacles and pain along life’s journey.

What do you wish a wise someone would have told you at 18? If you could go back in time, what would you have told yourself?

Here are a few things I wish I would have heard and actually lived out:



5 Wise Things I Wish Someone Would Have Told Me at 18

1. Take the time to discover and pursue a career that resonates with the heart.

I went to college just because my friends were going to college and to play sports. I had no clue about majors and couldn't care less about my future career. The only reason I chose a major is because I eventually, my advisor made me.

The reason I chose the one I did is because it seemed to be the only class I got something out of. It was psychology, and at the time, I enjoyed it more because I was trying to figure myself out.

I wish I would have had someone sit down with me or had the inclination myself to take a period and research tons of careers and see what interested me. I would have tried to figure out what my passions were. Finding a career that I absolutely loved at an early age would have been a blessing.


2. Hard work equals success. 

Successful people don’t normally just have success thrown into their lap. 

Successful people have worked their butts off in order to achieve goals. Whether it is career, sports, raising a family, etc., hard work increases the chances of experiencing success. 

Too many people complain about failures and are jealous of those who have gained success. However, they are not willing to work hard. Many expect things to be handed to them on a silver platter or get them instantly. 

Success does not work that way. I wish that at age 18, I would have equated success with hard work the way I do now. 


3. Invest in learning how to budget and save money.

I not only wish someone would have told me more about budgeting, frugality, etc., I wish they would have hounded me and pounded it into my brain day after day, week after week, and year after year. 

I bought into the credit cards, personal loans, and buying things I didn’t need to impress people who could have cared less. Years later I awakened to the mess I got myself into and made changes.

However, at 18, if I would have been financially wise, my life would be so different today. Learning to budget and save money is a big deal and we ought to be telling the youth of today that every day. 

If you want to learn more about finances, check out our sister site on Daily Finances - where we talk all about financial literacy. 


4. Expect setbacks and challenges.

I think I was naïve as a young adult, thinking life would be glorious all the time.

However, the wise reality is that life is not a bed of roses.

  • Things will go wrong.
  • People will upset and hurt you.
  • You will face challenges and obstacles. 

If we can embrace these truths at a young age and decide ahead of time to remain positive, we can more easily keep the head up. You don’t have to let setbacks keep you down or cause you to quit. You can learn from mistakes and move on, digging deep down to get through obstacles and challenges. 


5. Be who you are.

At 18, most people are still trying to figure out who they are, and society is right there trying to conform them into some status quo consensus of what is considered “normal”.

I wish I had people in my life saying, “Be who you are and be proud of it.” Diversity is a wonderful thing and to think that everyone ought to be “this” and “that” is immature. 

Whether it’s the way one dresses, career choice, sexual orientation, etc., be who you are and smile. 

You are uniquely you and are precious indeed.



What Advice Would You Give the Youth Today?

I’m sure there are lots of other things I wish someone had told me at 18, but these five ring the loudest. 

Perhaps as a young adult, we just aren’t ready to hear and take to heart solid advice. The good news is it’s never too late to start learning and implementing sound advice.

We can learn lessons all along life’s journey, and share them with others. Life is a continual journey of learning and discovery and that is exciting. 

Here’s to the rest of our lives full of wisdom, passion, hard work, peace, and immense joy.

Photo by Andrea Piacquadio


5 comments on “5 Wise Things We Wish Someone Would Have Told Us At 18”

  1. I was under age when met my first boyfriend my mom had 5 girls and wasn't a kind of woman that told us about relationships. Was only 13yrs old when met him but I was 15yrs i got pregnant I was frightened to tell my parents my dad was a strict man but when 3monthes told my mom an she took me to drs but dr said those
    Days was risky to av abortion so mom said didn't want me to take that risk .Ad my little bab girl when I was 16yrs my dad stated best to get married but didn't work out he was a bad man left a few times but kept going bak luckily found another woman an I cud leave him .went bak to my moms an dad's when my baby was 4yrs old.i was almost 21yrs But within 6 monthes went out with friends but after that my friends settled down with men so went out with my sister an her partner. A man talked to me seemed a nice man wasn't so sure cus of the life I had with other one so when took him to meet my mom did say what do u think mom ?.She said he looks a nice man an not bad looking 😏 so carried on seeing him seemed good within 3months council got me a flat when moved in my man eventually stayed there too .After 18monthes of our relationship he changed hit out at me an argued a lot threw him out but like a fool ad him bak .stuck it out after 7yrs got pregnant by him ad a lovely girl but when giving birth ad an epilepsy fit i almost died brought me bak .few yrs kept avin blackouts drs found ad epilepsy seizures. Still stuck man out when my child was 16yrs I ad operation on the brain took my left temporal lobectomy away an took my seizures away in day but taken sum of memory away too. I am now 57yrs old an now my .memory got worse has in forget where put things get my words mixed up forgot my parents funerals holidays I've been to concerts with my daughters funerals an oldest girls wedding day ad to stop work only a cleaner but fell cleaning my own window an broken knee told got osteoarthritis in my knees went bak to work after 6 monthes
    Where I managed to carry on was the only 1 there for 3an half hrs a day someone ad coronavirus so ad to av week off but when got bak the cleaner what took over me taken most my utensils I fell on my back at work on stairs cus hadn't got duster used vacuem missed step dr said luckily pulled muscles but off for 3 months when went bak found was in pain after couple hours so manager advised to put my notice in that's what I did tried to claim but solicitor wrote bak an said not hurt enough but after 9 months found now got spondylitis . My oldest
    girl ad 2 lovely grandsons an didnt make same mistake lovely man my youngest was 28yrs before she left home she has found a good man an last year ad a lovely granddaughter she's a golden ❤ girl .I know I've told u my life story but why av I never been happy all my life see if u can tell me that or was I so thick that stayed in another relationship where never been happy 😊

    1. Thank you for sharing your story Wendy, you certainly have been through a lot. But from the sounds of it, you are a very resilient person to have gone through all of that and still manage to see the positive in your life, like your lovely family. You recognizing that you want to find happiness could be the start of your personal development journey, and the community is here to support you with resources and positivity. 🙂

  2. Wendy , sorry that you had to go through some unhealthy and abusive relationship.
    Hope this challenges made you stronger abd wise after healing work being done.
    Warm regards and best wishes for quit sees of remaining life of yours .💙💚

    1. Thank you for supporting others in the community Nadia, it helps when we know we aren't alone.

  3. We are just spectators watching the show and cannot make big decisions because every turn in life has surprises that astonish us. So we are here to learn and whatever comes we have to grasp it.

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