Love is an anchor of most, if not all relationships. But, some relationships have come to an end despite the existence of love.
We have seen some couples that appeared to be deeply in love decide to end their relationships and we fail to understand why they would throw away such a beautiful thing.
The truth is while love is a fundamental and essential component of a healthy and fulfilling relationship, it is not always enough on its own to sustain a long-lasting, happy partnership. There are several reasons why love alone may not be sufficient and below are eight of those reasons.
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Love does not automatically guarantee compatibility in terms of values, goals, religion, lifestyles, and personalities.
If two people have significant differences in these (and several other) areas, their love may not be enough to bridge those gaps. The two will likely want to lead different lifestyles, which in some cases can be contradictory.
For instance, due to cultural and religious reasons, one might be against having sex before marriage. If the other person does not hold the same value, this could be a deal breaker, even when the two love each other.
Effective communication is crucial in any relationship.
Love may provide the motivation to communicate, but if the communication itself is lacking or dysfunctional, it can lead to:
Some people do not like to discuss issues and they believe that if they ignore the problems they are facing for long enough, they will vanish. This is not sustainable and if the other partner keeps on raising issues while their other half doesn’t want to address them, they might feel unheard and as though their efforts are not being reciprocated.
Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
Love can be present, but if trust is broken or eroded, it can be difficult to rebuild. Trust is earned through consistent actions over time, and love alone cannot replace that. However, once trust has been broken, it takes a lot of effort and hard work to rebuild it.
A loving relationship should be built on mutual respect.
If one or both partners do not respect each other's boundaries, opinions, or autonomy, love alone cannot sustain the relationship.
Love cannot cure or solve underlying emotional or mental health issues that one or both partners may have.
Both partners need to be in a good mental space in order for the relationship to flourish. It is important to note that a partner is not there to heal you. We all need to work on our emotional state with our partners holding our hands.
In most cases, this includes seeking therapy. Emotional intelligence and stability make it easier for two people to love each other and allow their relationship to grow.
Life often presents challenges such as financial difficulties, health issues, career changes, or family conflicts.
Love may motivate people to support each other through these challenges, but practical solutions and resilience are also necessary to navigate them successfully.
In some cases, these factors are too influential to such an extent that the relationship will likely not succeed. For instance, when one person has to move countries or even continents for work or family reasons.
Despite being in love, a couple might just decide to end the relationship as they don’t want to attempt long distance.
Love requires effort and commitment to keep a relationship healthy and thriving.
If one or both partners are not willing to invest time and energy into the relationship, love alone cannot sustain it. No one wants to be in a relationship where the responsibility of planning dates lies solely on them.
Differences in goals and ambitions can make it hard for two people to sustain a relationship even when they are in love.
When two people who are in love see themselves in different spaces when they imagine their future, that relationship might be compromised.
When the two decide to pursue their relationship despite goal differences (and without having a strong chat about it), it means one of them will have to continuously compromise on the things they want.
In the long run, this can result in unhappiness, hate and resentment. However, when there is clear communication, these ambition differences can be managed effectively.
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In summary, while love is a powerful and essential component of a healthy relationship, it needs to be complemented by other factors like these to ensure a lasting and fulfilling partnership.
Building a strong and resilient relationship often requires a combination of love and practical, emotional, and interpersonal skills. Without these attributes, a relationship can be full of hurt and resentment, even when there is love.
Walking away from a relationship with a person you still love can be hard, but sometimes it is the best thing we can do for ourselves.
We do not have to stay in relationships where we aren’t happy simply because we love the person we are with. Breaking up should ideally not be the first solution, but when issues have been communicated and aren’t changing, it might be the best thing.
However, that doesn’t mean it will be easy. Breaking up with someone you love requires you to be kind to yourself and process all the emotions. Ensure that you surround yourself with people who understand your decision and support you through your healing.
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I am deeply touched by the message I red. I seems like a big beden came out of my shoulder, something that I was caring with me but without knowing how to deal with...I am sure I will be able to manage my love life from now.
Thank you Joao, we're humbled to have had such an impact on you, and we wish you so much positivity in your love life and with yourself. Take care 🙂
It will be a long process, but I am of the opinion that it will work as I'm willing to make it work.
It can be a long process to make changes, to be sure, but they are worth making, and you can do it if you choose to. We're wishing you well!
Your 8 reasons on why are so true and yet we find ourselves sacrificing our life's because we feel it's not right to break up with someone that you have been with for sometime. And yet you are totally not happy.
Very true Alfred. So many people feel stuck in relationships for all kinds of reasons, but if you're unhappy and can't fix it, it's okay to leave. Of course, that's easier said than done. But listen to your intuition and honestly consider how you feel about where you're at.