There's a lot going on right now to make us feel frustrated and angry.
We all feel like this at some point, after all, frustration and anger are normal human emotions.
But what do you do when it gets out of hand? It’s very easy to get carried away with negative emotions and say something you don't mean or hurt someone you love. The worst thing is, you hurt yourself as well. It's not healthy to feel like this all the time.
To be happy and healthy in life, it’s very important to keep your emotions in check. Because emotions make us human.
If you’re tired of the frustration and anger, try these tips we are sharing below.
The ultimate path to saying goodbye to frustration and anger is to deal with it.
At the end of the day, you are responsible for your own happiness. If you notice you're feeling frustrated and angry more often than usual, or for longer periods of time, try to determine where it's coming from first. Then, be realistic about what you can do to change those feelings.
If it’s:
Give time to yourself. Do the activities you like to do.
Spend some time journaling, or even just going for a walk to let your thoughts wander. Talk to someone you trust, or consider speaking to a professional. Getting to the heart of why you feel frustrated and angry is key to helping you move forward and past it.
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The feeling of being powerless lies at the very core of anger. You might not realize it, but it’s proven over and over.
Whenever we don’t have power over something or someone, anger can seep in. The feeling of ‘I can’t do anything’ often results in feeling frustrated and angry. And in a lot of cases, you lash out at someone who didn’t deserve the treatment.
To get rid of frustration and anger, get rid of powerlessness. You don’t have to feel it. You cannot control every aspect of your life. In fact, humans are capable of controlling very little.
Learn to accept things as they are. For starters, do things that make you feel empowered. Focus on what you can control, try to start letting go of the things you can't.
Yes, it’s as simple as that. The first step of dissipating frustration is being in the present.
To understand why it’s important, you must understand what causes frustration.
For most of us, frustration emerges when we are not satisfied with something. When we are not somewhere we wanted to be, or we fall behind our idea of an ideal scenario.
And it’s okay to be frustrated. But in a positive way. You should always go beyond what caused your frustration and focus on how you can improve yourself.
And being in the present is the best way to approach that practice. You feel frustrated because you feel insecure about your future. Or, you regret something you did in your past.
The lesson of mindfulness is that neither past nor future matters - you can only be in the now.You reside in present. That’s what matters.
Practicing mindfulness is a great way to lessen feelings of frustration and anger. Mindfulness anchors our thoughts to the present and allows us to appreciate what we have.
This brings us to our next tip: appreciation.
Once you’re done with reading this post, take a few minutes to dissect your frustration.
We’re pretty confident you are capable of doing that. And when you do, you’ll find that you are feeling frustrated and angry because you didn’t get something.
It might be something:
Whatever it is, set it aside for a minute. Now, focus on what you have.
You have:
Even if you only think of one thing you appreciate, start with that. We often focus on what we are missing, rather than the things we have right in front of us.
Appreciating what you have can bring a sense of fulfillment. When you feel satisfied in your life, what you don’t have starts to matter less.
Appreciating what you have is a surefire way to let go of feeling frustrated and angry.
Life is not always fair to us. That’s the way it goes sometimes. There might be things in your past that still creep up on you from time to time. Anger and frustration is a natural reaction to things you feel are unresolved.
Try to get closure. If another person was involved, understand their perspective if you didn’t already. There is a cause and effect for everything.
Reflect on why you are holding onto something from your past, whether it was:
Identifying the cause can help you figure out how to resolve it. Can you?
If the answer is yes, like you regret an argument you had with someone you love and miss, think about how you could find closure. Sometimes you don't even need to speak to the person to do this. For example, you can write a letter to them that you never send, but results in you getting to speak your peace.
Spend some time really trying to identify why you are holding onto your past. This is an excellent opportunity to reach out to a therapist or counsellor as well, especially if you struggle to revisit what happened, or you feel you can't resolve it on your own and would appreciate some guidance.
At the end of the day, feeling frustrated and angry is a common expression for all of us.
For some, it’s only momentary. And for some, it becomes a way of life. We know you don’t want it.
We don’t want it for you either. So, take the time to incorporate the tips we’ve shared in this post.
Editor's note: This article was originally published Mar 10, 2021 and has been updated to improve reader experience.
Photo by Uday Mittal on Unsplash
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You mentioned to appreciate what you have and then you have a list of stuff. When one is not feeling good, and read your list and nothing on the list applies to you, you can almost go in the state of more depression by feeling you don’t have any of these things and everybody else does. Just the wording could really hurt somebody and itself.
Needs editing by someone who knows English a bit better. the grammar is a bit off; more, the tone is severe.
We all have different experiences in our lives… things that we love and those we don’t. I am grateful for the suggestions and ideas put forth in the above article. Our individual uniqueness is a blessing . I am thankful we are able to express ourselves, each in our own way.
Thank you
I just clicked on negative emotions and came across this article. After reading this allowed me to let out a huge sigh of relief! A lot of times we feel so alone like we're the only one's feeling like this... or just in our own feelings (feeling some type of way) but really we aren't. I appreciate that I read this because it put certain things more into perspective like being present, appreciating what you do have (gratitude), and basically taking back your power. All of this many of us already know but just to have confirmation as a gentle reminder that all we need is already within us. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for this Ariana - you are absolutely right. One of the great things about the internet is that our community gets pretty big. Seeing that we are not alone can be a powerful relief, and can help us let go of insecurities so we CAN get our power back, as you say. SO happy you found this gentle reminder, and we love having people like you in the community. 🙂
it is pretty interesting to see both comments positive and negative it's hard not to realise what state you can be in without realising.
my point is as a life coach you all have the capability to stop looking at the frustration and anger and make changes to a more positive outlook
have great day
Good point Gary. We all have an opportunity to make positive changes and face our issues so we can move forward!
DO - I am sorry no one responded to how the list in the article made you feel, now it has been a year. I hope you are ok. No doubt anyone with a long term chronic health issue likely will not relate to this list and many others as well. I do not relate either - you are not alone. The point that is muted by the list is really just to focus on what you do have to be grateful for - Everyone has something to be grateful for - including you and me. Take time to appreciate your gifts external or internal. God bless you.
Thank you for supporting the others in the community, LM. And you're right, as we mention in the article, feeling frustrated and angry from time to time is a normal reaction, but if you feel that way all the time, it's important to reach out and talk to a health professional to get at the root of what is hurting or bothering you, because that could be a larger or chronic issue where you need more tools and support. Finding things to be grateful for is a great way to start, and everyone will find something different to focus on.
Mindfulness…. Absolutely! If we could all apply these tips and hints to let go of frustrations and helplessness( cancer , love and or etc.) we’d be better off. Listen to that still small voice of being here and now, and not living in the past or future! Thankyou!
Definitely Susan, mindfulness can help a lot of people, it's a technique that helps us to focus on what we can do right now, in the moment. Practicing mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing, or finding a quiet space when we feel overwhelmed can definitely lessen frustration in our day to day lives.
I always choose negative over positive. Mindfulness is teaching me to let thoughts flow gentley. In the present moment I can see the positive. Daily meditation is helping me see positive before negative.
Thanks, I needed to read this and appreciate it immensely ❤️
I really appreciate the article and all your comments. I think it came at the right time, I was feeling hopeless and realized after reading the article that I do have so much to be grateful about and letting go is part of the process to healing.
Thanks everyone