Getting Older: The 3 Things Most People Fear About Aging

By Dominica


Last Updated: October 28, 2022

When we’re in our 20’s, we don’t usually have anxiety about getting older.

Back in my 20’s, I doubt I ever thought of what my life would be in my 60’s or 70’s. However, when we start approaching our late 40’s or 50’s, we tend to feel some apprehension about aging for various reasons. 

Many people fear getting older and do everything they can to try to look and feel young.

Some use anti-aging products, or use a filter for any picture they post on social media. Others go all out and opt for plastic surgery. Still others will spend plenty of time at the gym or exercising and eating healthy, so they feel (and hopefully look) younger as they age.

What is that most people fear about aging?

Here are several of the most commonly reported fears as men and women creep up there in years.



The 3 Things Most People Fear About Getting Older 

1. Being Viewed as Old and Unattractive

Women have always had the tendency to exaggerate the truth when it comes to their age, but men do this too.  Ask a woman her age and she tends to avoid the question or say that she is a few years younger than she really is. 

Regardless of whether it’s a male or female, the body goes through some changes as the aging process occurs. It’s inevitable. 

Whether it’s wrinkles, gray hair, weight gain, dark spots on the skin, jiggly underarms, sagging breasts, etc., the reality is that everyone goes through changes as they grow older.

Regardless of how many aging products one uses, getting older happens and the physical signs come sooner or later.

As you age, your body will go through some changes. You may be able to hide your wrinkles at 50, but at some age, you will just have to accept the fact that wrinkles come. 

Acceptance is the key to getting over your fear of aging. Embrace the fact that aging occurs. 

Do what you can do to cultivate an inner beauty that radiates through your physical body, take care of yourself by eating healthy foods, exercising, getting enough sleep, and have a healthy social life to add to your well-being. 

You don’t have to view aging as a negative thing. 



2. Fear of Being Alone

Many people fear losing their partner and/or children and are afraid of being alone. Surely, as people age, the likelihood of losing friends and family increases. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to live out the rest of your days alone.

You can prepare yourself in the case that you end up divorced or experiencing the loss of your beloved. A great way to do this is to have a circle of close friends and/or get involved in community events.

You can learn to become independent and feel confident that you can face life if you’re on your own. You could also get a roommate if that would help you feel more connected to others.

And, those who start really advancing in age can always look into living at a retirement home, where there are plenty of other people to connect with.

You can also work with that fear of being alone. Facing the fact that as we age, we may lose people important to us is not easy, but the more you can accept it, the less fear you will have.  

If it’s more than you think you can handle, you can reach out for some help from a therapist to help you overcome that fear.


3. Fear of Becoming Sick

As people age, they tend to become more fearful of experiencing illness.

Of course, as we advance in age, the likelihood of experiencing ailments or illnesses does increase, but if someone is struggling with intense fear, it’s helpful to find some support to work through that fear.

Usually underneath such fears is the fear of the unknown. If you can try to work through that fear, you’ll be far less likely to struggle mentally with the fear of becoming sick.



Embracing the Aging Process

Whether you’re a man or woman, you don’t have to live in extreme fear of getting older. 

We can continually be working on ourselves mentally and physically for optimal health and overall well-being. Try to embrace the aging process. Do what you can and let go of attachment to the rest. Aging is a beautiful process and part of the human journey.

If you keep taking time to work on you mentally, physically, and spiritually, you can be a confident, radiant, joyful, and beautiful person at 50, 70, or 90. 

Decide ahead of time that no matter how old you are, you will be a passionate person full of vigor, life, and joy as often as possible. Be an example to others who are struggling with fears of aging.

Photo by Anastasia Shuraeva


21 comments on “Getting Older: The 3 Things Most People Fear About Aging”

  1. I agree with the three things we that are blessed to get older. I can call friends and visit. I have two Nieces that are so kind to me. We see each other and their other Aunt as often as possible we our combined time limits.. I can have a friend stay over night. I am healthy God bless me. I walk , go to the gym.I read, Paint, knit. I am involved...The wrinkles are there. I use nice face greams so I can feel good. What a gift this life is.

    1. What an amazing attitude, Marybeth, you sound like a very grateful person :). So happy to hear about your blessings, it sounds like you have a wonderful family and are taking good care of yourself. Love to hear from you!

  2. Thank you so much for this wonderful, inspiring essay! What a joyful way to look at life, especially as we are bombarded with false images of getting older, such as celebrities who have had so much plastic surgery they are frozen in time, versus some TV shows and movies who show people over 60-70 as doddering confused sexless jokes. I am saving this article for sure, as an uplifting reminder.

    1. Exactly Opal! Turning 60 or 70 doesn't mean you give up or suddenly become a different person. Wrinkles aren't the enemy, after all, laugh lines are wrinkles...on TV in the 80s, people over 40 looked like they were 80! Times have changed and people are taking better care of themselves 🙂

  3. Thank you for this insightful commentary. When I was younger, I'd walk in a room very confident in my beauty as my avenue to get me where I wanted to go. I'm so glad I went back to school and developed a relationship with the Lord because this has contributed to my confidence in the Lord instead of my looks. I'm amazed when I'm complimented on my looks at 70 plus but I know it's Christ shining through now!

  4. People have a right about being sick if they can't afford medical care to make them well. People do die from catching the flu/cold which turns into pneumonia.

    Another fear is money or the lack of it. Too many Americans rely on Social Security as their main source of income/pension because their IRA and regular pensions are insufficient or they don't have an IRA and/or pension at all. In addition, the cost of living keeps going up and up with no end in sight while wages, pensions, and Social Security have been stagnant for the last 42 years.

  5. Totally agree with senior living and reliance on social security income. I would propose a second check monthly not in a large sum, but a supplance for basic food and cleaning supplies. Possibly food coupons at 100.00 for one person and 200.00 for multiples that is the top amount in addition to the fixed income. 300.00 total from age 62 and up allowance.

  6. As a 60 year old woman I don’t worry about how others see me. I’m aging. It’s a natural process. I have friends and family around me that I love dearly.
    My fear is of the unknown, of illness or the inability to care for myself and my friends and family. I have made my end of life wishes very clear to my kids so they won’t have to worry about the decisions.

    1. Good for you Marcy, it can be hard for people to be practical about getting older, especially around making end of life decisions. That's so very thoughtful of you. Worrying about illness or being unable to care for yourself are also both genuine areas of concern when it comes to aging.

  7. I appreciate this article. As I age I continue to look for the positive in aging. I am learning acceptance. Thank you for recognizing that people have fears about aging. I think we still live in a world that finds older people irrelevant. Again, this was a great article.

    1. Thank you SUA. I feel like it's to our detriment if we don't appreciate the wisdom and knowledge that can come with age. Before my wonderful grandparents passed away, I asked them every question I could to get their perspective and advice, and am so grateful for it now. If you look for the positive, you can usually find it - we appreciate you 🙂

  8. I am 76 and fortunately, I am healthy. I drive hundreds of kilometres with ease. I walk for an hour every day and do not need any medications. I have never ever thought of getting old and the three anxieties mentioned by you have never ever entered my mind. But after reading this article, I seem to be apprehensive, but i simply brush it off my mind. All my friends are younger than me and that is the reason I am still young at heart and lead a very active, confident life.

  9. You nailed it. These are definitely the three things folks fear about aging. I still colour my hair and wear (minimal) makeup, as I feel better emotionally and physically when I take the time to look my best before facing the public. I'm a 76-year-old, fun-loving old broad who has learned to stop worrying about what others think of me, particularly when I stage shows for seniors with my "septuagenarian" trio. Yes, I have several health issues related to ageing, but am too blessed to be stressed.

    1. Way to go Barb!! You sound like a lot of fun, thank you so much for sharing, and for spreading what sounds like a lot of positivity wherever you go. You are an inspiration!

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