It’s alright to have wants and needs.  This is something that many people forget about, thinking that they are doing something wrong if they need something. Or, they’re just afraid to ask for things, feeling like they’re not worthy to receive. One thing that many couples talk about in therapy is not feeling heard or […]

We’ve all been in a situation where we didn’t feel understood. And that’s okay. But when someone starts saying statements like, “It’s not as bad as you’re making it,” or “It’s not that big of a deal,” we can feel even more upset and unheard. It’s as though the other person is saying your feelings […]

Have you ever heard someone say, "Speak up for yourself"? Well, that's essentially what being assertive is all about. It's not about being loud or bossy; it's about expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs in a confident and respectful way. Think of it as finding that perfect balance between being too passive (keeping quiet and letting […]

Imagine you're in a work meeting, and a colleague has just presented a project they've been working on for weeks. Everyone seems impressed, but you see a significant flaw that could undermine the project's success.  Eager to help, you immediately point out the issue, emphasizing how it could derail the project and suggesting a complete […]

Throughout life, it’s likely we will face some difficult circumstances and people.  Life will not always go as planned and people will not always act like we want them to. That’s just the way it goes. I think that as we grow personally, it is important to learn how to speak up for ourselves and […]

When we first fall in love, everything tends to feel magical and exciting, doesn’t it? But as time goes on, it's easy for the spark to fade and for the romance to dwindle. I’m sure many who are reading this can attest to this. Assuming you don’t want romance to die off in your relationship, […]

Unlike physical maturity, which follows a more predictable pattern as we age, emotional maturity is influenced by various factors such as life experiences, personal reflections, and intentional learning.  Most of us, as we grow, encounter situations that force us to mature emotionally, such as: our parents’ divorce difficult conversations break-ups relationships failures and more Or […]

Falling in love is a beautiful time. But after the honeymoon stage, reality begins to set in! Perhaps you’ve discovered that both you and your partner argue a lot and are bent on being right. It’s a problem. Yet, there are so many other great aspects of your relationship. So, what’s going on? Well, you […]

An argument doesn't have to be this negative cloud or an ego battle of who can prove their point better. In fact, they can present an opportunity for you and your partner to grow—and even bond together (yes, it’s true!). And here’s the thing: Most therapists won’t say a healthy relationship doesn’t include arguments. Rather, […]